A Painful Journey in Educated
A good coming-of-age story lets us feel the
growing pains of a character from beginning to end. Tara Westover’s
depiction of herself in Educated shows
a metamorphosis rife with conflict, so that by book’s end, we know she’s
grown, but we wonder, along with her, if the agony was worth it.
Westover, in her mid-thirties when Educated debuted in 2018, grew up the
youngest of seven in a survivalist family in Idaho , where her education consisted mainly of
aiding her mother’s growing herbal remedies and midwifery practice. Her father ran
a junkyard, scrapped metal, and built barns and sheds for a living. Through her
father, Westover learned to operate heavy machinery, and to suck it up when the
machines got the best of her: the on-the-job injuries she experiences under her
father’s supervision are treated with mother’s home remedies, not western
medicine.
As Westover enters her teens, she endures
the near obsessive gaze of her brother Shawn, who deems her a whore for tending
to her appearance, and beats the tar out of her many times over, while her
parents do nothing. The abuse in the book is wretched, and Westover the writer
does an exemplary job of showing us the detached, excuse-ridden mental
gymnastics she went through anytime Shawn choked her or buried her face in the
toilet. It is a real portrait of physical, emotional, and mental crimes, and
the lies a victim believes in order to justify the abuser’s actions, that make
the book so strong.
The good news for Westover is that she is
smart; she parlays her intelligence into admission to Brigham Young
University at 16 years
old (or at least she was maybe 16 years old, which is hard to know since her
family never got her a birth certificate). Equally interesting here is Westover’s
journey through higher education. Having never attended a regular school, she
uses shear determination and her limber intellect to succeed first at BYU, then
Harvard, and eventually Cambridge
for her PhD in history.
Despite her academic achievements, Westover
still carries the emotional baggage of her family, one that denies her truth
about her reproachful upbringing. The author skillfully describes how a
dysfunctional family invests in keeping up the dysfunction, and the price she
must pay once she stops participating. When her mental breakdown occurs as a
result of leaving her old for her new life, it is a bitter-sweet move for Westover, and a gut-punch to the reader.
It was in a memoir writing class in the
fall of 2018 where I first heard of Educated.
It seems like since then, every fifth person I talked to about memoir writing
today recommended it. So thank you to all those people for their insistence
that I read Educated.
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